Returning From Leave

  Today marks the one year anniversary of the last day that I saw patients before I went on ‘medical leave’ for my grief. I continued to do administrative work on and off, but I stopped seeing children and families. It was just too painful. I returned...

My Job

Recently, I have been thinking about patients whom I cared for when they died. A few of those occurred here in Grand Rapids where I have been a general pediatrician, but the majority happened during my pediatric training at the University of Iowa. I don’t...

Episode 10: James’ Mom

On this the last day of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month, I have a guest who understands this loss in ways that most people never will. Jessica Tosh lost her infant son, James, after just 2 months of life. Young James was never able to leave the hospital, but...

Episode 9: Brooke’s Mom

On this episode of Losing A Child: Always Andy’s Mom, I talk with Brooke’s mom, Judy Breen. Unlike most of my previous guests, Judy’s daughter, Brooke, died as an adult in her 30’s. She was married with three children of her own. I admit that...

Episode 8: Eric’s Mom

Dentist Kim Harm’s 19 year old son, Eric, looked like he had everything going for him. He was a smart, talented jazz pianist who had just finished his first semester at Columbia University. He had been elected to the student council, was getting excellent grades...