Christmas Day was always Mary’s favorite day of the year and 2020 was no different. She was happy as she watched through the window as her husband made snow angels outside with her grandchildren. The day seemed perfect despite the fact that her son, Zach had been unable to come home to Indiana from where he was living near his dad in Texas.
When Mary’s husband came inside, he commented that he had missed numerous phone calls from Mary’s ex-husband. Mary immediately panicked, knowing that something must be wrong with Zach. However, never in a million years would Mary have thought that her ex-husband would tell her the devastating news that Zach was dead. He found Zach in his apartment sitting on his couch with his nebulizer machine running. It is assumed that Zach died from an asthma attack on the evening of December 23rd.
I feel like all bereaved parents struggle with the holidays. As I sat in church for Christmas Eve worship, tears flowed freely as I remembered Christmases past and longed for the days when Andy was with us. These days of joy and celebration do not feel very joyful when we are grieving, but then I think of Mary and others like her – parents whose children died on or around Christmas. It just adds another complicated layer to the grief.
It would be completely reasonable to think that Mary might want to avoid Christmas entirely. She might want to just hide away during the whole Christmas season, but that is not Mary. Mary’s faith has been an inspiration since I met her when she joined one of my support groups through Starlight Ministry in February of this year. Despite Mary’s own pain, she has been an amazing listening ear and a source of comfort to all of us who are blessed enough to be in a group with her.
After sharing with the group for the past several months, Mary made the decision to share Zach’s story on the podcast. When asked if she might want to share Zach’s story on the week of Christmas, Mary knew that was perfect timing. Just as Mary’s honest presence helps our support group each week, her story will bless each of you as you listen during this hard Christmas week.
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